Without going into detail, last summer, my daughter needed her father’s legal help and these were the conditions he wanted her to meet…he black mailed her into disowning me and saying my book is a lie.

I find this so desperate on his part because our daughter was not even born when half the content in the book occurred!

So, how would she even know?

Additionally, and for the record, my step mother rewrote her Will AFTER my book was released in 2014 to include my full inheritance (which had been denied to myself and my sisters when my father died in 2013) because my family knows I am telling the truth.

Finally, I dedicated my entire book to my brother who took his life at 17 as a victim of domestic violence in an alcoholic home. He would want people to know what happened. My daughter is the only one who asks about him and the kind of person he was. No one talks about him. It’s all about them. I am here to clear the ancestry so the next generation can step into a crystal clear future. I would never disparage my brother’s memory by attaching his name to anything less than the truth.

Seaside, Florida

My daughter posted this loving tribute publicly on her Facebook page this past December. Thank you sweetheart. All my love. Mom OXOX

I want to thank my Mom Jodi Parmley Kirkwood for always loving who I am no matter who I choose to love . Growing up I was called all kinds of names but she never makes fun of me or laughs at my struggles. She clears my insecurity and makes me feel so much stronger as a woman, I talk to her and it’s like the whole world’s opinion of what I do goes away and I feel confident again. She never says she will leave if I do something wrong and has fiercely been protective over me since I was diagnosed bipolar 3 years ago. Mental illness is hard and not laughable. It is a real cross to bear and I’m happy to have her support no matter what I say or do. Merry Christmas , can’t wait to spend Christmas day at Ruth’s Chris with you and Jack and family. Love is all that matters when a family breaks apart. The kids matter. I wish others saw her inner beauty like I can. God loves us in spite of our sin so why can’t we love each other in spite of our humanity. She is my best friend and I’m proud to be her daughter too. We don’t choose our parents but they chose us so the best love we can give is respect, kindness, love, and compassion. Xoxo

My daughter and I. Christmas at Ruth’s Chris 2019.

After recently hearing the details of Jesuit high school’s incidents of sexual and spiritual abuse on a local news station, I need to say the Catholic Church is NOT the last word in abuse by organized religion. I write about leaving the Catholic Church in my book due to the abuse of children.
This is the high school senior ring my fighter daughter gave me because the head and founding Pastor of a nondenomination megachurch hired EXTRA security to keep me from attending both my children’s graduation ceremony, TWO years in a row. A christian high school, no less. She also gave me her stole and tassel which I keep in my car. She is still healing from the abuse she incurred from being kept away from me, her mother, for 5 years and which this local christian high school and megachurch participated in.
I don’t know what kind of teeny tiny tic tac balls this Pastor has to have to hire extra armed manpower to keep a woman, in her 50’s…5’5” and a size four, off his church campus!
And has the audacity to stand as a representative of God and tell a 14 year old girl, my daughter, “you can never reconcile with your mother.” There is scripture that says it is better for such a person to have a millstone tied around his neck and cast into the sea than to harm one of these little ones. I will never forget the damage done to my children.

PLEASE KNOW IF LOUISIANA FAMILY COURT CAN TAKE MY CHILDREN AWAY FROM ME , they can do it to anyone.

I have been professionally educated in the health and wellbeing of children. I worked at Children’s Hospital for years in NICU, PICU, general pediatrics and Oncology. Working with children and their families dealing with cancer, I was asked to be a full time staff member bc they saw the skills and compassion in me needed to care for very sick children. I also worked as a Nurse Case Manager for Children’s Hospital Ventilator Care Program. These are children going home to live on a ventilator. I was also one of the first nurses to be a part of Ochsner Hospital’s transport team, flying to other states or by ambulance to bring sick babies back to Ochsner. I worked in psychiatry with children and adolescents at River Oaks and was told by Dr. Dowling that I was one of their best psychiatric nurses. My record for working in hospitals on both sides of the lake is spotless. Academically, I graduated with honors(Sigma Alpha Chi) from Charity Nursing School (which in the 80’s was the second best nursing school in the nation) and became double certified as a CCRN in adult med-surg and NICU. I wrote a CCRN study guide and taught a course preparing nurses who wanted to take the CCRN exam, a highly respected certification by the medical profession as well as doctors.

Update: My children are hurting. My son had a grand Mal seizure this past year and this is caused by stress, emotional and physical. My eldest daughter graduated from law school and is harassing her only sister by emails and Facebook. I have no doubt she is being coerced into doing so by her adopted father. He has brainwashed her for decades. I have done everything I can to alert their family who actually care, as well as, the community.

My youngest daughter is working hard with a team of professionals to get the help she needs. All she wants to do is heal and go back to school. How can anyone deny her this? Even though her father avoided prison by marrying a woman who could pay off his creditors and debt from insurance fraud…which is a FELONY...to the tune of $5 million, he doesn’t think he needs to financially help his own blood daughter.

I understand he has received an award from his high school De La Salle in New Orleans. I suspect “purchased” is a more appropriate verb. Frankly, I expect better from the Lasallian brothers.

Her father has destroyed her family of origin, traumatized his children and owes them for the rest of his goddamn life!!!

My attorney has candidly advised me, if any harm comes from my children being mistreated, I can go to court.

DOMESTIC VIOLENCE BY PROXY IS NOT MOVED ON!  March 28, 2018

The media facade put forth by the ex is he. has. “MOVED ON”.  Not so when my children are still receiving, from his hand, Domestic Violence by Proxy.

This is the pivotal reason for showing the Domestic Violence in my first marriage from the previous post. As the abuser, he continues to NOT allow my children contact with me, their mother, without severe consequences which impedes them from independently moving forward in their young adult lives. And well they know it, because if they did, my eldest daughter would be fired from her job at his law firm and my son would be kicked out of the house his step-mother owns and demands he pay rent. Money he could be saving to start a life on his own.

But that is not their father’s goal. His goal is to hold my two children mentally, emotionally and physically hostage and to torture my youngest daughter at every turn.

“Everyone is entitled to their own opinion but not their own facts.” – Daniel Moynihan

Here are Domestic Violence by Proxy facts which prove he has NOT MOVED ON:

1.) FACT: He kicked his youngest and only blood daughter out of the house the same day she contacted me, her mother.

2.) FACT: He took his youngest and only blood daughter’s car away the same day she contacted me, her mother.

3.) FACT: His youngest and only blood daughter continues to be in my life (note: the above photo from her birthday last month) and he withdrew her financial support for college last summer while she lived with me, her mother.

4.) FACT: He continues to ambush and attempts to sabotage relationships while his youngest daughter is trying to move forward in her life. We have evidence.

Based on what has actually taken place, we can use deductive reasoning for the following:

5.) If his son came to see me, he would take away his car, just like his sister.

6.) If his son came to see me, they would kick him out of the house, just like his sister.

7.) If my first born daughter came to see me, her mother, he would fire her from her job at the law firm. Frankly, I’d be more proud of her if she were making an honest living doing anything else, even flipping burgers, rather than working at a law firm with known corruption and fraud.

Their father has NEVER “MOVED ON”. But wouldn’t it be nice if he did.

As long as my children continue to be subjected to this kind of abuse, I will be right here beating the drum.

This is a photo of the bruising inflicted on me by my ex husband. I write about the episode and include this photo in my book F.I.F.I., Financial Infidelity F**k It, which was released in December 2014. In the book, all pictures are in black and white. For the first time, I have released the color photo taken by me with my iPhone. Color makes it real. At the time, I had learned my husband of nearly 20 years had been using my identity to commit numerous financial crimes. I was looking for evidence, he caught me and tried to wrestle the car keys out of my hand. I was pinned to the Escalade holding the keys and phone to my chest and he was on top of me, kicking and jabbing me. My phone rang and it was someone who knew I was in trouble. It was the only thing that made him back off.  I also write about an earlier incident during our marriage when he leveled a blow to the top of my head. We were married just a few months.

In the years that followed our divorce, he has admitted to committing  acts of insurance fraud which has not only involved the forgery and notarizing of my signature but several others and took place at his law office. I show one particular legal document and the individuals involved in a previous blog post here, on this website.

My ex is a practicing attorney in Metairie and has a weekly radio show on WWL giving legal advice to the community.

I’ve written many times here about my family’s Northshore megachurch, Christ in a King Cake. Prior to reuniting with my youngest daughter, I made the statement frequently, I didn’t really care whether people attended this church or not, just don’t give them your money.

My position has changed and here’s why.

Now I’ve heard the horror stories of my daughter recounting the times she was told, “you can never reconcile with your mother”, while pastors and church staff were praying over her and laying hands on her as a fourteen year old girl. Extra security guards were hired so I could not attend my two children’s graduation from a christian high school, which is affiliated with said megachurch. In addition, I suspect my daughter’s activities were monitored. Case in point, my daughter was given a credit card and told to go buy what she needed for her freshman year at LSU. No one came with her. She found herself at Bed, Bath and Beyond in tears not knowing what to buy and feeling a panic attack. Heartbreaking. Suddenly, my sister, a pastor, shows up, sees the state my daughter is in, says hi and then leaves. I suspect she was checking to make sure I was not shopping with my daughter.

This is a megachurch which likes to put in their advertising for their children’s ministry and school, “where your child is safe.”  I suspect this an attempt to set themselves apart from the Catholic Church’s child abuse scandal. My youngest daughter was not safe from their spiritual abuse. To review, spiritual abuse’s impact is immense. It is like God showing up and giving His approval for all that is happening.

That my friends is uniquely spiritual abuse.

At least catholic parishioners  have recourse to report abuses to the archdiocese and even the Vatican. Non-denomination megachurches go unchecked and unchallenged with no such ruling body.

Just to connect the dots, cults have no such oversight either.

I suspect members enjoy the megachurch music and pretty lights, putting on tiaras and unicorn sparkles for special events.  I can no longer say I don’t care if people attend events and service. It has destroyed my family and I nearly lost my daughter forever to suicide.

I care because I suspect it can destroy other families as well.

If you have similar suspicions and need representation, please contact me: jodiparmley@yahoo.com

“You must not be timid. One day life will demand it of you.” ~ Woman in Gold. (following quotes included, with paraphrasing)

It was not enough to rob me of my family and destroy it. No, I had to be eradicated. But you will not come to my funeral. Instead you will watch me celebrate my life!

I can never return. I had to flee. I will never forgive them for making me flee and preventing my children from being with me. At the very least we should be reunited and rightfully so.

I am proud of my contributions, my book, and I am proud of my children. No one can take that away from me. In my book I am also speaking for the ones who didn’t make it.

“Freedom of speech means you can say whatever you want. What you can’t do is lie and then expect not to be held accountable for it.”

I seriously doubt my attorney would have contributed a chapter if it was a book of lies. “Not all opinions are equal. Somethings happen just like we say they do.”

I’m eternally grateful for many things today. First and foremost, for the survival and return of my youngest daughter. Only God!

I’m grateful for my husband Jack and his family for their love and support.

I’m also grateful for the help and support of many people in this community who became loyal friends to me and my daughter. Please keep us in your prayers. I can’t imagine how difficult it will be for my daughter to navigate through life with so much disillusionment and abuse…mental, emotional, physical, and spiritual abuse. Knowing the people she should have been able to trust…aunts, uncles, father, sisters, step family, school, church…let her down in catastrophic ways.

Her family supports suspected criminal(s).

They are a conman’s shield, i.e. any person or entity a conman uses to appear legit. I suspect their pictures on Facebook reflect the evidence.

How does my daughter reconcile this fact? How does she choose a good mate? good friends? good actions?

Her family protects suspected criminal(s).

They do not have a leg to stand on. They find the word “fuck” offensive but suspected criminal behavior is apparently okay. No right to criticize. No right to point a finger. Hypocrite is too nice a word.

Judases.

My ex likes to say I gave him power of attorney. Never have I executed power of attorney with anyone. My forged signature is not even his handwriting. Apparently, I suspect, someone else did his dirty work. The sample I saw looks like the round bubble handwriting of a young woman.

The fact that my eldest daughter has worked at her adoptive father’s law firm since high school terrifies me. I have literally told her to “get the fuck out of there.” I suspect her desperate motivation to discredit me is a matter of survival. I can forgive her for anything. I will love her and be here for her forever. I believe she is predestined and born for greatness.

I suspect there is more than one person committing criminal activity and this is tragic. I suspect this person could turn certain people in and even plea bargain for a lighter sentence. Lets end this tragedy right here, right now!

Think about it.

The movie Woman in Gold inspired me to write this post. I am of the belief that evil never changes its strategy. No matter if it is destroying a country where Jews must flee the Nazis or if it is destroying a family where a mother must flee an abuser.