I text them, post public on FB and Twitter.  There is so much social media that even when my son and daughter were suddenly off FB(I believe forced off by their father and my attorney concurs), I could still reach out.

Keep up with their school events.  Plan to be there for awards.  Meet their teachers.  If you have 50-50 custody, the school has to keep you updated on their grades and activities.  It is the law.

I have started writing each one of my children a letter each week.  I put their name on the envelope, my address and have it mailed from the post office or place of business.  It comes to my mailbox, postmarked.  I plan to save the letters and wrap them in a ribbon.  One day I will present the collection of letters.

In the letter I write what is in my heart for each child individually.  I write what I am doing that week.  This helps me enormously.  I feel connected and a sense of relief, along with hope that one day they will know I was always thinking of them.

When the letters arrive in my mailbox I feel like I have made a great leap in the healing process of me and my children.  It is a concrete, pro-active task. 🙂